Do Couples Really Heal After The Heartache Of Infidelity?
You've watched it play out over and over in movies and on tv. However, discovering infidelity has led you to an unexplainable heartache you weren't prepared for. Even worse is you're left to deal with your thoughts and emotions on your own. As a result, you may feel like you're losing your mind.
Hollywood is pretty good at bringing situations to life, or so you thought. Now that you're personally facing infidelity, your perspective is much different. In fact, you may be wondering if couples really do survive. Likewise, you may wonder if you can heal regardless of whether your relationship remains intact?
Couples facing life after the discovery of infidelity may never be the same. As individuals and as a couple, what you do now could heavily impact your future. So, can couples therapy really help?
What is Couples Therapy?
Between Hollywood and social media, there's no shortage of references regarding the idea of couples therapy. Typically, what you see or read is intended to poke fun of couples therapy. However, now that reality has hit home, you may be wondering if therapy could help you find a path forward.
Couples therapy aims to help individuals acquire effective communication, problem-solving, and emotional regulation skills. At the same time, it's a great way to address issues within the relationship in a safe, productive environment. Likewise, you're likely to walk away knowing more about each other's strengths and weaknesses as well as your own.
Can Couples Heal After Infidelity?
The good news is, there are plenty of studies that show healing is possible after infidelity. In fact, there are many couples who report feeling more satisfied with their relationship than ever before. However, there are some factors that may determine if couples will find success.
First and foremost is the level of commitment the two of you have to the relationship. Unfortunately, it may feel like an obvious zero on your partner's end of things right now. However, that may not be completely true. If you both feel a sincere sense of commitment to working to make things work, that greatly increases your odds of a successful outcome.
Another factor that can help determine the success of the outcome of therapy is timing. According to
Gottman.com (Timing is Everything When it Comes to Marriage Counseling), timing is vital to your success. The sooner, the better. Waiting to get help to resolve issues allows resentment to build up.
Finally, it's important to find the right kind of therapist. At
Walk By Faith Counseling, we specialize in treating couples who are facing issues such as betrayal trauma. Although the road to healing will present many challenges, the outcome can pay off. Regardless of whether you intend to remain together with your spouse or feel like you want to end things, we may be able to help. We'd love to talk to you.
Contact us today.
