Could Your Relationship Benefit From Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Terry W. Reese - M.S. | LPC | CSAC | CSAT | NCC | BCPCC • July 29, 2020
Walk By Faith Counseling - Could Your Relationship Benefit From Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Are you struggling to move forward together in your relationship? Are you trying to work through a loss of trust, anger, and feelings of betrayal? Many couples who try to make their relationship work after an affair or addiction need help. If you're looking for ways to heal, emotionally focused therapy (EFT) may be your solution. 

Couples tend to lose hope when there is an emotional detachment within the relationship. However, the EFT approach can help restore that hope. 

In this article, we'll discuss why emotionally focused therapy may be the type of treatment your relationship needs to heal. 

Is Emotionally Focused Therapy the Right Approach for Your Relationship?


There are many couples who try to work through a sense of betrayal or loss of trust within their relationship. Often, fear, anger, and insecurity replace trust in these situations. As a result, couples recognize their need to seek professional help. Does your relationship seem to be lack an emotional connection? If so, EFT may be a great approach to help you and your partner reconnect (AddoRecovery.com)



The EFT approach can help couples who fear abandonment, lack trust or feel insecure. Often, when anger or fear resides within a relationship, so does emotional distance. Without trust, couples tend to struggle to fulfill other's emotional needs. If you need help working through anger or fear, therapy may be the key to your success. 



At Walk By Faith Counseling, we help many couples through the emotionally focused therapeutic approach. 


Walk By Faith Counseling -Is Emotionally Focused Therapy the Right Approach for Your Relationship?


How Can EFT Help My Relationship?



Do you find yourself wondering, "Is he committed?" "Does he really love me?" "Am I important?" These are common questions couples who feel insecure about their relationship ask themselves. 


If you find yourself asking these questions, EFT may be the type of therapy that can help. Why? Because emotionally focused therapy addresses insecurities within the relationship. Likewise, vulnerabilities often arise when emotional needs are not met. So, this approach can help you gain a better understanding of your emotional responses, and those of your spouse. Through the process, you'll obtain skills that lead to secure emotional connections. As a result, couples overcome feelings of betrayal, gain effective communication skills. You can restore the bond you once had. 



Walk By Faith Counseling - Should You Try Healing Your Relationship Through the EFT approach?


Healing Your Relationship Through the EFT approach


Emotionally focused therapy is a proven, successful therapeutic approach that helps couples reconnect (psychologytoday.com). There are three steps in this process (GoodTherapy.com)


The first step is de-escalation. In this step, your therapist helps you identify negative patterns within your relationship. Like many couples, this part of the process often uncovers feelings you didn't know were there. In addition, it can help you work through any attachment issues that may exist. 



The next step is about learning how to have productive interactions. This stage of the process involves discussing your feelings. Likewise, you'll talk about any fears you have. At the same time, you'll both learn how to respond in a way that doesn't push your partner away. Choosing to be honest about your feelings can lead to healing. As such, the second step also requires vulnerability. However, through vulnerability, couples can bond and restore trust (verywellmind.com).



The final step of the process involves learning new ways to tune in to each other's needs. Likewise, you'll develop effective communication tools. As a result, you'll gain the knowledge you need so you can respond to and fulfill each other's emotional needs. Furthermore, you'll be able to work through emotional situations in a non-divisive way. As the walls of insecurity, anger, and fear come down, you'll begin to see each other in a new light. You can reclaim your relationship as one that is fulfilling and secure. 



If you want to know more about emotionally focused therapy, contact us today. Walk By Faith Counseling helps couples restore trust and happiness within their relationship. We want to help you too.



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