What is the biggest challenge of betrayal trauma for women? 

One of the biggest challenges women face in betrayal trauma is knowing how to respond (AddoRecovery.com). 

In an instant, you're flooded with feelings of anger, hurt, and intense feelings of betrayal. You may not know it, but feelings from your childhood may actually begin talking at this point. 



"I'm not enough."

"Something is wrong with me."

"Nobody wants me." 

"I'm unloveable." 

"I'm powerless." 



As a result, you will likely respond from a place of rage, turn to detective mode, or numb out. While each of these has a way to calm you down, neither will provide the long-lasting effects you need in order to move forward. 



There's a way for you to receive clarity in your response. Whether it's to set clear boundaries and stay with your spouse or to move on without him, you can be at peace. 



Is betrayal trauma leading you to your greatest detective work? 

Many women dealing with the open wounds of betrayal are needing much more than a bandaid. 

Are you questioning everything your spouse tells you? Do you find yourself searching through his car, pockets, phone, and computer? We refer to this as detective mode. Many, in your situation, feel desperate for information. Likewise, many turn to control in an effort to protect themselves from getting hurt again. 

If you feel like you want to take over and search through everything he has, you're in detective mode. This response is very common. Of course, you want to know if there are other ways he has hurt you that you don't know about. The problem is, being a detective is exhausting. Furthermore, this serves as a bandaid, albeit a very small one, that doesn't even stick very well. 

At the end of the day, while you may feel in control by gathering information on your own, unfortunately, you're not. Actually, being a detective will likely add to the emotional and physical turmoil you're drowning in. As you become more focused on every move he might make, it can take over your life. As a result, you'll likely suffer more than you already are. 

At Walk By Faith Counseling, we can help you find a more authentic way to heal your aching heart. 

How God can help you begin to heal from betrayal trauma

For many who believe in God, they believe healing can take place with His help. God helps us with our ability to heal, forgive, and move forward. As a result, turning to God may be the way to begin healing your betrayal trauma. 



As you turn to Him, you can ask Him to help you respond from your authentic self. Furthermore, you can ask for help to see your spouse for who he is rather than his behaviors. Likewise, you can ask for help with forgiveness. Forgiving the betrayal is not the same as accepting his behavior. Instead, forgiveness allows you to let go of the anger and approach your healing with a calm, clear mind. Doing so can help you decide the direction you want to go with the most clarity as possible. 



At Walk By Faith Counseling, we understand betrayal trauma. Likewise, we can help you find peace as you go through the healing process.

Call us today.